Good, Decent, and Honest

Nature has shown us that animals who posses the flashiest of their spieces' characteristics are the ones who get the best and often first choice of mates. We've all heard of the term 'peacocking' which refers to wearing ridiculous get-ups to attract the attention of women, mimicked of course from the peacocks who try to impress peahens by fanning out their tails which are colorful and full. Naturally, the male with the best tail gets the best mates.

How does this translate into today's culture? It's exactly the same. Biological impulses program humans to be attracted to the most physically fit males because they are perceived as good providers, in another word, hunters. The same impulses make women with wider hips, bigger breasts, and an overall healthy look more attractive because nature is saying these are the women who are best fit for child bearing. Typically to go with this, these people are exceptionally attractive. Nature shows the one who is most attractive (symmetrical) often rises to the top, which is why it is natural to see attractive people as couples.

(Complete side note, but my theory on couples is as follows: if, on a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being not all attractive and 10 being the most attractive, people will normally date or couple within a two number range of their own attraction number. So, if for example, someone is an eight, he or she may date someone who is an eight, seven, or nine. Have you ever looked at couples and thought, "wow, they almost look alike?" I see it all the time, and I think as couples get older together, they tend to continue to look more like the other. Very rarely do we see someone who is an eight coupled with someone who is a three. I suppose you could argue this is nature taking it's course).

Maybe it's just my experience, but usually how it works it, is the people who know they're attractive, trend toward being more selfish, self-involved, entitled, and a whole myriad of related terms because nature dictates they can hold out for the best because their 'peacock tail' always wins for them. Unfortunately, in my life and the lives of my friends and family, the peacocks with the flashiest of the flashiest tails are the ones who are selfish and mean. They leave a lot of disappointment when they show their true colors. I've been reminded a lot lately (indirectly) of how often these people show up, of how many there actually are. It also reminds me of how important it is to fill up my life with good, decent, and honest people and to strive to be a good, decent, and honest person.

As for me, I'm not looking for the flashiest mate. I'm looking for the honest one. The one who may back out of a fight, not because of cowardice, but for a purpose much greater and more meaningful than showing off his strength. Sometimes, a good person needs to be everything.

Whether you're in a relationship or not, try to find honest people, boyfriends, girlfriends, friends in general to surround yourself with. Life becomes so much for fulfilling.